Choosing the Venue

Choosing the venue is what sets the tone of your wedding day. Churches, Synagogues, or places of worship tend to be more formal; Gardens can be romantic; Beaches, more laid back. But any location can be a combination of formality, casualness, and romance. Be certain you are picking the venue that defines you and your husband-to-be as a couple.

 

Even if you have not dreamed of your wedding day since you were five years old, determine what strikes a chord with you now. Where did you and your fiancée first meet? Where was your first date? Where did he first tell you he loved you? Use this information as clues to help you determine that magical spot where you will officially become man and wife.

 

I would not ask others about what location is best for you…I would ask your own heart. Sit down with your fiancée and for a moment reminisce about the places that bring joy to both your hearts. Once you have determined what that pitter patter place will be: a place of worship, garden, beach, or whatever, then begin to seek out those who had the same experience as you.

 

It is not necessary to ask so many different opinions about what is already in your heart.

 

I originally planned to have our wedding at my family church. This is what I was supposed to do. But things were not flowing correctly. I had issues with almost everything schematically. Deep down, I just did not want a church wedding. Finally, after wasting a year trying to make the idea work, I chucked it. My family was so disappointed, but it was my day. Once I was true to what I really wanted: a garden wedding, everything fell into place!

 

It takes courage to stand on what you want when everyone else thinks differently, but it’s not up to everyone else. It’s not everyone else’s day. It is yours. So stand firm and stand tall!

 

Read more in the book:

My Wedding Was Horrible! 10 Mistakes to Avoid when Planning your Dream Wedding.

 

Until next time!