The Energy that Surrounds You!

When planning your dream wedding keep in mind that positive energy surrounding you is vital!

 

This vital energy comes from those you invited to participate in you wedding, the guest you  are inviting, and even your vendors!

 

Let’s take it step-by-step starting with your bridal party.

 

Those persons whom you invited to stand with you on your special day should have one agenda: your happiness.  The bridal party is not there to approve what you want for your day, but are there to support what you want for your day.  You have hand picked each person and their objective is to carry out your wishes no matter how bizarre they may personally seem.  If there is constant in-fighting with your bridal party, STOP!  It is time to consider removing and/or replacing people.

 

The guest list should not just contain warm bodies to fill seats, the guest list should contain those who respect, admire, understand and most of all, love you, your husband-to-be, and the union.  Inviting the rival from high school or college with whom you traded countless one ups, should not be invited. That negative, competitive energy has no place at your wedding.  Family members who insist on interacting with you through jealousy, envy, and hostility should NOT be invited.

 

Vendors with whom your are constantly at odds with does not deserve your business no matter how note-worthy they are!  If you the customer are not being treated as if you are the only customer, find another vendor.  Too often vendors take advantage of the Bride as vendors figure and hope that the Bride will pay almost any cost to have the perfect day.  Weddings are a business and if your vendor is not conducting business to your satisfaction, replace him or her!

 

Energy continuously flows whether good or bad, so insist that energy around you is positive.  You get one shot at your day.  When you have bridal party members, guests, and vendors who are on your side, you are ensuring yourself a better day overall.

 

Finally be courageous!  Change what needs to be changed. Here’s a little strength from the Serenity prayer:

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

–Reinhold Niebuhr

Get the book:

My Wedding Was Horrible! 10 Mistakes to Avoid when Planning Your Dream Wedding.

Choosing the Venue

Choosing the venue is what sets the tone of your wedding day. Churches, Synagogues, or places of worship tend to be more formal; Gardens can be romantic; Beaches, more laid back. But any location can be a combination of formality, casualness, and romance. Be certain you are picking the venue that defines you and your husband-to-be as a couple.

 

Even if you have not dreamed of your wedding day since you were five years old, determine what strikes a chord with you now. Where did you and your fiancée first meet? Where was your first date? Where did he first tell you he loved you? Use this information as clues to help you determine that magical spot where you will officially become man and wife.

 

I would not ask others about what location is best for you…I would ask your own heart. Sit down with your fiancée and for a moment reminisce about the places that bring joy to both your hearts. Once you have determined what that pitter patter place will be: a place of worship, garden, beach, or whatever, then begin to seek out those who had the same experience as you.

 

It is not necessary to ask so many different opinions about what is already in your heart.

 

I originally planned to have our wedding at my family church. This is what I was supposed to do. But things were not flowing correctly. I had issues with almost everything schematically. Deep down, I just did not want a church wedding. Finally, after wasting a year trying to make the idea work, I chucked it. My family was so disappointed, but it was my day. Once I was true to what I really wanted: a garden wedding, everything fell into place!

 

It takes courage to stand on what you want when everyone else thinks differently, but it’s not up to everyone else. It’s not everyone else’s day. It is yours. So stand firm and stand tall!

 

Read more in the book:

My Wedding Was Horrible! 10 Mistakes to Avoid when Planning your Dream Wedding.

 

Until next time!